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I Wouldn’t Go Back to me without Cancer

 

Before I had cancer I had no idea

How precious this life is

How fragile and fleeting

That all for some cells not behaving themselves

Can be snuffed out and finished

Like blowing a match

 

Before I had cancer I had no idea

How people can rally

And gather around you

Compassion, encouragement, meals and prayer,

Fresh food from the garden

Surrounded by care

 

Before I had cancer I had no idea

What strength lay within me

Deposit of power

Available now as much as I need

To  find in the battle

My peace and my joy

 

Before I had cancer I had no idea

How deeply involved

In each other we are

The sweet bonds of love binding us all together

A glimpse of God’s heaven

Right here on earth

 

Don’t take it for granted, you’re not here for ever

This beautiful world

And the wonder of life

Cancer has shown me just how great my love is

I can only be grateful

And never look back

Another piece by Lynette. Has your experience with cancer inspired you to write?  Post your comments.

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In honor of my own wedding coming in up a week in a half, I found it fitting to promote the “The Wedding Pink” this week.

The Wedding Pink is an annual, heartfelt wedding giveaway package presented to a couple whose lives have been recently touched by breast cancer.

Cheryl Ungar, the founder of The Wedding Pink, is a 20-year breast cancer survivor and a wedding photographer. In addition to Cheryl donating her own wedding photography services, she has put together an extraordinary team of some of Colorado’s top wedding vendors — all of whom have generously agreed to donate their services and products to ensure The Wedding Pink is a spectacular event for one very special couple.

One of my favorite couples was the recipient of the first annual Wedding Pink. You can watch  video footage  or browse pictures from The Wedding Pink

Melissa + Jeff, the recipients of the first  The Wedding Pink

If you’ve been touched by breast cancer recently and just got engaged, submissions are being accepted from July 1, 2011 to August 15, 2011.

From The Wedding Pink Website:  We are beyond thrilled to announce The Wedding Pink – 2012 to be held on May 17, 2012 in beautiful Vail, Colorado. We are teaming up with one of the premier venues in the heart of Vail, the Donovan Pavilion and the award-winning wedding planner, JoAnn Moore of Mountains & Meadows. Submissions will be open nationally this summer. You may find all of the details here, we will be providing more information as it becomes available.

-Christi

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By Marcia Donziger, our Founder and Executive Director

I was 27 and thought I had a bladder infection.  Turned out to be a tumor on my right ovary. 

At first, my gynecologist was not concerned. 

“Could it be cancer?” I worried. 

“No”, she replied, “You’re too young to have cancer.”

I was married and trying to get pregnant at the time, so I scheduled surgery immediately to get it over with.  The doctor assured me the worst that could happen is I’d lose one ovary, and still be able to have children.  She was confident the tumor was benign.

On surgery day, I was wheeled into the pre-op room.  That’s when the medical assistant approached me with a legal form to sign, agreeing to the potential of having a hysterectomy.  My doctor and I never discussed this.

Five hours later, the surgery was over, and I was in the recovery room.  My body thrashed around in pain, and I still felt knives stabbing throughout my stomach and back.

That’s when my doctor broke the news. “I’m sorry, but you have Ovarian Cancer.  We had to do a complete Hysterectomy.”

Through the pain, I heard, “You have cancer.  You can’t have children.” 

The irony was that my doctor was six months pregnant.  Her belly at my eye level felt like multiple stabs in the heart.

Stage 3c Ovarian Cancer spread throughout my abdomen.  Infertility.  Followed by a bowel obstruction.  And six months of chemotherapy. 

One of things I struggled with most was keeping friends and family up-to-date with what was going on.  I felt the daily burden of not communicating effectively with those I loved who were so concerned. 

In 2007, I founded MyLifeLine.org to help all cancer patients and caregivers easily communicate with friends and family during the treatment process.  MyLifeLine.org Cancer Foundation believes a strong support community is critical for cancer patients.  We provide free, personal websites to cancer patients and caregivers to easily connect with family and friends, because no patient should ever feel alone. Learn more at www.mylifeline.org.

I would love to hear how an experience you’ve had with cancer inspired you to do something in the fight against cancer. Please share your comments.

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Check out these organizations that provide resources and assistance to young adults with cancer.

First Descents

First Descents is committed to curing young adults of the emotional effects of cancer and empowering them to regain control of their lives by experiencing outdoor adventure therapy through kayaking, rock climbing and other outdoor adventure sports.

Fertile Hope

Fertile Hope is a LIVESTRONG initiative dedicated to providing reproductive information, support and hope to cancer patients and survivors whose medical treatments present the risk of infertility. If you have fertility-related questions or would like more information related to the Sharing Hope financial assistance program, call toll-free 866.965.7205 or complete an online intake form for the LIVESTRONG SurvivorCare program.

Hope For Two

The Pregnant with Cancer Network offers free support for women diagnosed with cancer while pregnant. We connect women who are currently pregnant with cancer with other women who have experienced a similar cancer diagnosis.

ReproTech, Ltd. Fertility Preservation Network

ReproTech, Ltd. is dedicated to offering safe and effective shipment and long term storage of reproductive tissue that has been originally cryopreserved at another laboratory or cryobank.

Ulman Cancer Fund for Young Adults

A leading voice in the young adult cancer movement, we are working at a grassroots level to support, educate, connect and empower young adult cancer survivors.

Young Survival Coalition – Breast cancer

Young Survival Coalition (YSC) is the premier global organization dedicated to the critical issues unique to young women who are diagnosed with breast cancer. YSC offers resources, connections and outreach so women feel supported, empowered and hopeful.

Here’s a long list of organizations that are part of the LIVESTRONG Young Adult Alliance. Check back later this week for a post on our favorite Break Cancer Videos…..

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By Kim Jewett, breast cancer survivor and Director of Collaboration and Outreach for MyLifeLine.org

“When a young woman is diagnosed with breast cancer, she can feel isolated and alone. Her psychosocial and medical issues are fundamentally different than those of older, post-menopausal women, as is the impact of her diagnosis on her family and friends. With the bulk of medical and psychological resources designed for women over 50, a younger woman may not know where to turn. More aggressive cancers, fertility, relationship issues, treatment-induced early menopause, living decades with this serious diagnosis — these are just a few ways a younger woman’s breast cancer experience can be unique. To address these issues, Living Beyond Breast Cancer and Young Survival Coalition have created C4YW – an annual conference for young women affected by breast cancer and those who support them.”

Reflections from Kim on the C4YW Experience:

As a young breast cancer survivor myself, this was the first time I had the opportunity to attend the conference.  I was excited to attend, not only as a survivor, but as an exhibitor as well.  In between the workshops, networking and presentations I was able to meet many women who were survivors, but some unfortunate, that were metastatic.  I can remember at one point turning to my colleague, with tears in my eyes wondering how I could listen to one more heart wrenching story.  But, as I started to reflect and realize, this was the only place that these women can come to for support while fighting for their life every day.

My most inspiring moment was, meeting Julie Clark.   She was the founder of Baby Einstein and author of “You are the Best Medicine.”  As we enjoyed dinner getting to know one another,  it was not real to me that she too, was a woman who was metastatic.  At that moment, I realized what an amazing inspiration she truly was, and that she was a perfect example of not letting cancer define who she was. Based on her talent with Baby Einstein, we surely can see the passion she has on giving back and helping other young women connect with their children when diagnosed with cancer.

 As the days passed, there were so many great workshops to attend. Some, of which were dealing with recurrence or fear of, side effects of tamoxifen, how to build back your bone health after chemotherapy, and sadly how to deal or cope with dying.

I also had the pleasure of listening to Dr. Ann Partridge, a leading researcher on breast cancer in younger women, and founder and director of the Program for Young Women with Breast Cancer at Dana-Farber Cancer Institute. Dr Partridge provided us with a comprehensive update on the latest breast cancer research, commenting that the biggest strides have been made in the area of targeted treatment. Breast cancer is no longer treated as a single disease and the opportunity to individualize and target treatment is the direction research is moving toward.

 There were plenty of exhibitors as well.  They represented the many support groups, apparel and organizations dedicated to young women with breast cancer.  It was great to meet others that were just as passionate and dedicated to the work they do every day.

 I am so honored to have experienced this conference. While reality was very difficult for me to bear, I felt completely rewarded by the work I do everyday  with My LifeLine.org.  It allows me to have a passion for something I love to do, while having the opportunity to give back to others.  I am really looking forward to C4YW, 2012! 

–Thank you Kim for recapping what the C4YW conference meant to you!

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